fear of judgement
you do not have a fear of judgement, at least it isn’t exactly that. when you say you have a fear of judgement, what you are likely saying is you fear being judged as something…
dumping vs a place of power
this has been spoken alot lately in a container i am in. but also something clients and friends spoke about before every now and then. i feel like i have a sense of it…
i’m not that coach
let’s be honest and drop that bullshit about: “i am doing ______ only because i want to change the world or want to help you/someone………” (i dont have a label i resonate with. i dont…
let’s focus on what we can bring to the table and drop the small stuff!
i used to be very bothered with how i always have typos and jumbled words but i realised many actually dont care about those. they are here for what i can bring to the table,…
on “self sabotaging” (and why i dont subscribe to it)
for the ‘words people’, here’s the gist: years ago, i subscribed to the idea of self sabotaging. as i grow and evolve, what i believe in changes and i no longer believe in it. here’s…
you can heal without reconciling with the person who caused you hurt.
if you are more of a word person, here’s the gist. many healers, teachers, coaches, therapists, etc subscribe to the idea that you need to speak to, reconcile, forgive the person who caused you hurt,…
fear based decisions
“We don't rise to the level of our expectations, we fall to the level of our training.” – Archilochus (Greek philosopher) went out for lunch and bought H’s dinner. sat there for a while considering…
how trauma shows up in daily life.
sometimes, it is not in the the behaviors. it’s in the emotions – which may not be seen. many have the misconception that trauma has to a certain way, usually big and impacting people in…
rising in love
FB reminded me that 6 years ago, i wrote this. and 8 months after i wrote this, i met H. then 4 months later, we got together. when i first wrote this, i really…
stubborn vs persistent
stubborn adjective the word to use on someone who is firm on an opinion or action (that is different from yours) in spite of difficulty or opposition. “stop being stubborn. just listen to me” persistent…