5 ways to validate and hold space for someone’s feelings
Validating and holding space for someone is a lot more of actions and being than words. Many I spoke are more concern with what to say and miss the point of being with the person.…
reflection triggered by heihei’s ivdd
some of you might have heard it from me privately, some had some clue when i sent out the telegram message. it happened really quickly. he woke up and was not able to stand…
Functioning survival mode
We are familiar with fight, flight, freeze or fawn as a survival response from acute stress and situations. Many are now aware that for those who are in survival mode due to traumas are constantly…
oct is physical upgrade – life patterns and cycle
for many year, i have physical “issue” in Oct. 2017: i had my first hives breakout in 30 years. 2018: i stop eating meat overnight. 2019: i stop drinking alcohol overnight. 2021: my body craved…
it is not your job to meet other’s expectations of you.
it is not your job to meet other’s expectations of you. it is your job to deal with the imaginary expectations of others that you made up in your head. many times we think that…
let’s focus on what we can bring to the table and drop the small stuff!
i used to be very bothered with how i always have typos and jumbled words but i realised many actually dont care about those. they are here for what i can bring to the table,…
you can heal without reconciling with the person who caused you hurt.
if you are more of a word person, here’s the gist. many healers, teachers, coaches, therapists, etc subscribe to the idea that you need to speak to, reconcile, forgive the person who caused you hurt,…
how trauma shows up in daily life.
sometimes, it is not in the the behaviors. it’s in the emotions – which may not be seen. many have the misconception that trauma has to a certain way, usually big and impacting people in…
on anger and a 11pm vet visit
if you follow me for awhile, you know.. anger is a long time friend. one that i was taught to reject and abandon while growing up.. but made peace and developed a strong relationship with..…
still healing my relationship with my body and food
i shared briefly last year about my relationship with my body and food. i’ve always know that i’m an emotional eater.. i’ve ate when i’m sad, happy, stressed.. i’ve stuffed food into my mouth when…