let’s be honest and drop that bullshit about:
“i am doing ______ only because i want to change the world or want to help you/someone………”
(i dont have a label i resonate with. i dont really care for it too. so lets just throw some common ones that people commonly link to what i do)
i am not that coach, facilitator, guide, healer, therapist, teacher etc who says that i do what i do because..
.. i want to change the world.
.. i want to help someone.
im not that great and i dont pretend i am.
in the past, i did talk about those a lot.
(but i also realised i was taught/conditioned to think that way)
inner work allows me to be honest with myself and others.
i do my very best when we work together, i give you whatever i can offer.. but i cannot say i do it because i want to help you.
i do it because i am good at it, i can, i want to and i enjoy doing this work. (and in the process, yes, it may help you)
i like that i can work from home. i am good at it and it is easy for me (most of the time). i feel good.
i cannot do something i do not enjoy so money is not the highest form of motivation. if anyone asked whether i will still do what i do if im not being paid.. the answer is a definite yes IF i have other means of making things work for myself.
cos if one day, i am starving and struggle to have a roof above my head, i cannot feed my dog.. i likely wont say that i will do it because i want to help you.. cos i first need to help myself.
today, let’s drop that. let’s be honest.. many of the “i want to help..” is not the main reason why people do what they do.
if doing something doesn't benefit in any ways, why or how would anyone wants to do it? (even if it cause them pain, but if pain is what they want.. then that is also a benefit)
what about humanitarian work? those who help without asking for a return? social workers?
they likely help because they cannot stand the pain of watching those people suffer. they help so they can ease the pain for themselves knowing they are trying their best.
there is always an exchange. be it monetary, or not.
but many people only talk about how much they want to help so it seems like they are good person.
so let’s normalized being true and honest – that it is ok for someone to be passionate about something because doing that reduces their own pain and suffering.
it doesn’t always need to be for a greater good.