without, distinction, nuances and granularity.. these are red. distinction look for a clear separation, a boundary of where something ends and another begin. nuances look at subtle or hidden traits. it ask for personal…
Transparency Notice: all ideas and opinions expressed are mine. AI is used to help prompt me to think deeper or brainstorm (eg. the archetype names HAHA). people pleasing self serving (including self preservation) the term…
being true to yourself does not need to happen in the expense of others. this conversation came up a few times with clients and many have the idea that being authentic somehow means you need…
Validating and holding space for someone is a lot more of actions and being than words. Many I spoke are more concern with what to say and miss the point of being with the person.…
“honesty” is one of the common values that people look for in intimate relationships, me included. but as i gain deeper insights, i realised that honesty alone is no longer enough. i used to always…
“i don’t see why we need to spend time to talk about emotions cos it doesn’t solve or change anything” this sentence (or variations of it) is nothing new. many people go by this and…
another lie that we have been told often about emotions is that “emotions are not logical”. but, emotions are logical. (at least for most adults) i asked chatgpt to define “logic”. now explain to me…
what is the size of a tub of kimchi in your world? how we infer what someone is saying, is based on how our world is. three weeks ago, my friend shared she bought extra…
i remember being behind my computer reading blogs after blogs. i don’t even need to be super close to the person, but i enjoy reading his/her blog, learning more about him/her and what’s happening. there…
it is not your job to meet other’s expectations of you. it is your job to deal with the imaginary expectations of others that you made up in your head. many times we think that…