i was taught the concept of balance since my yoga days. whether it is on the mat, off the mat.. balance is what is important.
i held that way beyond.. bring into duality, polarity..
in many aspect of life, i aim to be balancing – well, because we can never stay balance. in each moment, things shift and even if we are balanced for a moment, we will shift into balancing the next. it is a constant shifting.
last week, i heard someone said ‘i dont want balance, i want harmony’.
it is not the first time i hear that word ‘harmonising’ as it is also a common word used for energy work. but i was blown away.
after a week or so of being with it, i conclude it depends on different variables and context to decide whether balance or harmony is better. therefore, it is not one or another.
but for me, there is a lot more resonance with harmonising than balancing now.
balance is about having two or more elements an even distribution or in correct proportions.
harmony is a combination two or more elements that is compatible / complementary.. in state of being in agreement. (and agreement here has nothing to do with right or wrong, but more like co existing without conflict/struggle.)
the reason why it hit home for me is, at any given moments or period of time, we may need more of this than that.. or we can even have opposing thoughts and feelings which is not about balancing, but having them co exist in harmony.
we are usually not 50% masculine 50% feminine. but also then, how do we calculate it?
if i am more of one and less of the other, and it is working for me and i am not in constant conflict or struggle, isn’t that more important?
in more times than we think, know or remember, we have multiple emotions, thoughts, desires.. and they are sometimes (or many times) in ‘opposing’ side because we put them to be or assume them to be..
our struggle seems to exist when we want it otherwise.. to be balanced, to get rid of one.. but do we really need balance in that given context? or do we need to really get rid of one or another?
in the past, i always asked for balancing of energies, but i realised, what i was given support in was harmonising.
so if wanting balance and trying to balance has been tough and yet getting no where for you.. how about try exploring and asking for harmonising of energies instead?